Miscarriage in the public eye
October marks “pregnancy loss awareness” and although the community is grateful for the spotlight the truth is every second someone loses a pregnancy. A woman miscarries every single second, 365 days a year. These figures include all walks of life, all demographics, anyone, everyone.
Miscarriage is devastating, heartbreaking, confusing and most of all private. Some don’t have the option of coping in private. Millions of dollars are spent daily filming in Hollywood. If you are the star of the show then pressure is really on. In every interview you are asked “when are you having a baby?”
Actress and humanitarian Audrey Hepburn suffered two miscarriages before the birth of her sons, Sean and Luca. Audrey fell off a horse while filming the 1960 movie “Unforgiven,” resulting in one of her miscarriages. Sadly, Audrey had a third miscarriage after her second son’s birth.
Actress Courtney Cox went public with her infertility struggle, multiple miscarriages, and rounds of in-vitro fertilization. Through IVF, Courtney gave birth to her daughter, Coco, in 1999.
Actress Sharon Stone suffered three losses before choosing adoption. Sharon is a mother to three boys.
Actress and model Brooke Shields tried to conceive naturally for years, but by 36 she opted for in-vitro. Brooke suffered a miscarriage and several failed IVF rounds before conceiving daughters, Rowan and Grier. After the birth of Rowan, Brooke suffered from postpartum depression; she recounted her ordeal in her book, Down Came The Rain.
Actress Valerie Bertinelli suffered a miscarriage while married to Eddie Van Halen. They have one son, Wolfgang.
Singer and songwriter Pink (Alecia Moore) penned a song, “Beam me up,” after her miscarriage.
Singer Lisa Marie Presley had blood issues with clotting and viscosity causing several first trimester pregnancy losses. After Lisa was prescribed blood thinner, she became pregnant with twins. She is now a mother of four, including her twin daughters with her fourth husband.
Actress Jane Seymour, known for her long locks and heterochromia (one green eye and one brown eye), suffered two miscarriages. The mother of four was on national TV when she miscarried one of her pregnancies; Jane was co-hosting the Tournament of Roses parade. The devastating 1993 event made her leery of live TV, but Jane faced her fears by competing on Dancing with the Stars in 2007. She spoke publicly about her loss on Entertainment Tonight.
Actress and icon Sophia Loren suffered two miscarriages before the birth of her sons, Edoardo and Carlo.
Actor, rapper, and TV host Alvin Nathaniel Joiner, known professionally as Xzibit, lost his son due to extreme prematurity in 2008. Son Xavier lived for 13 days. Xzibit took a six year professional hiatus to deal with his loss.
I applaud Facebook’s Mark Zuckerberg for sharing his miscarriage heartache. Director and Producer Ann Zamudio is taking it one step further and through crowdfunding is directing her first feature length movie – “Don’t talk about the baby”. The movie is breaking the silence of miscarriage, stillbirth and infertility. It is not easy to deal with loss in any capacity but know there are resources available and you are not alone.
Jake McKenna Ibarra studied Early Childhood Education at San Francisco City College, is a certified birth and bereavement doula through SBD University, certified in perinatal mood disorders by Postpartum Support International and is also a PSI member. Jake recently completed two facilitation trainings and co-facilitates local H.A.N.D. (grief support) meetings. Jake writes about her grief, and completed a four-part series on loss. She writes resources she wishes were available to her in 2011. She is a 4th generation San Francisco Native and mother to six including her preterm twin angels. Her personal experience, combined with extensive birth and bereavement training, make her an invaluable asset to the Doula Spot team.