Talk to other new moms about NIP – if you haven’t found a weekly moms’ group yet, there are lots of local Facebook groups where you can ask questions and get the support you need (for NIP and any other issues you want to discuss). One great local group is Bay Area Breastfeeding Support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/211086202257411/
The law is on your side
Did you know that, in California, you have the right to breastfeed your baby in any public space without being hassled? That’s right, it’s YOUR RIGHT! So you can confidently tell anyone who bothers you this awesome fact. And if someone does harass you, you can report them to the Nursing In Public Hotline: 855-NIP-FREE.
What to wear?
Whatever you’re going to wear, make sure you practice nursing in it at home. You might find that perfect outfit isn’t quite so perfect when the time comes to nurse. I recommend wearing two layers: The first layer is a tank that’s easy to pull down and bring out your breast and the top layer is a shirt you can easily pull up to expose your tank. This way, your belly is covered and just your breast is exposed – and it won’t be exposed for very long once your baby is latched and feeding.
You can also have a scarf or small nursing cover to be even more discreet. I’m not a fan of those giant nursing covers – they’re not very discreet and most babies don’t like being under them – and you don’t want a fight when you’re trying to discretely breastfeed! Also, get used to babywearing (http://www.babywearinginternational.org/what-is-babywearing/); it makes it so much easier when you’re out and about. Breastfeeding while babywearing can be hard to figure out at first, but, just like everything about being a new mom, practice, practice, practice!
I also recommend practicing with a couple of different positions at home that might work well for breastfeeding while sitting upright at a café. You’ll have to use the arms of a chair or get used to nursing with no support with such positions as the traditional Cradle or Cross-cradle holds. The Koala hold can also be a great choice for nursing upright in public:
You could also turn so your baby faces the wall, which not only keeps your breasts away from others’ eyes, but will hopefully help keep your baby from becoming too distracted!
What if my nipple slips out?
You will probably be the only one to notice! And how you act, even if you don’t feel it on the inside, really does make a difference: Act confident, act like you and your nursing baby belong there. And if you do have a “nip-slip,” you’ll have a good story to share with your moms’ group!
Here are some other great online resources:
- Take Abby The Badass Breastfeeder’s awesome, free, 7-day online course: http://gentleparentinfo.com/BadassPublicBreastfeeder.html
- San Diego Breastfeeding Center: http://sdbfc.com/yourrights/
- The Boob Group: http://www.theboobgroup.com/?s=in+public
- Best for Babes: http://www.bestforbabes.org/nursing-in-public-hotline-855-nip-free/
- La Leche League International: http://www.llli.org/nb/nbpublic.html
- Kellymom: http://kellymom.com/bf/normal/bfip/
- Anne Smith, IBCLC: http://www.breastfeedingbasics.com/articles/public-nursing
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